Even though your marriage is coming to an end, you may have no appetite for fighting with your soon-to-be ex-spouse. This may come from your desire to protect your kids, your readiness to move on with your life or something else. Fortunately, you probably do not have to let your divorce turn into an all-out brawl.
Proceeding with an uncontested divorce, where you and your husband or wife wrap up your marriage largely outside of the courtroom, is likely to reduce friction. Furthermore, according to reporting from U.S. News and World Report, uncontested divorces typically cost substantially less than divorce litigation.
Your divorce mediator
While it is certainly possible to negotiate child custody, property division and other divorce-related matters without professional assistance, many uncontested divorcers choose to use mediators. A mediator is a neutral person who facilitates negotiations. He or she also may recommend ways to resolve disagreements.
You and your soon-to-be ex-spouse should both have input when choosing your divorce mediator. Generally, though, high-level mediators have certain professional skills that make them good at their jobs. Among others, these usually include the following:
- Active listening
The hiring process
It may take some time to find the right mediator for your uncontested divorce. Consequently, you may want to begin the hiring process as early as possible. When interviewing potential mediators, be sure to ask about their professional skills and mediation history. Your attorney may be able to recommend some qualified mediators to help you get started.
Ultimately, by choosing a suitable mediator for you and your family, you are likely to improve your odds of wrapping up your marriage without encountering significant problems.